Many patients, particularly women, feel that their medical concerns are not being fully addressed. In this video, we explore the common complaint of not feeling seen or heard by a physician. Learn why loyalty shouldn't keep you in a medical relationship that no longer serves your needs and how to move on to a doctor who is a better fit for your current life stage. It is okay to seek a second opinion and transition to a new provider who will prioritize your health journey.

You know, when I talk with patients and a common complaint is, "I don't feel seen, I don't feel heard." So when patients are saying, "I just don't feel as if my complaints are being addressed," I often say, "It is time to look for another doctor. Get a second opinion." In fact, I'm actually blunter. I just say, "Move on." A lot of times we stay with a doctor, especially women, out of, loyalty, or they've helped us through a difficult period in our lives, and we, have a lot of confidence in them, even if they're no longer serving our needs. And so the breakup doesn't have to be, acrimonious.

It can be very pleasant. "Listen, we've had a great run over ten years, over twenty years, and you have served me during this phase of my life, but now I'm at another phase, and I need something different, and I need to move on to something different." And then do so with a smile, a nod, a, a handshake, and a, and a hug, and move on. Women especially stay too long with physicians who are no longer serving our needs. As we move through different stages and transitions in our lives, every doctor is not the right fit.

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